this is why everyone hates the workaholic colleague

In my work, I have the opportunity to delve into the operations of many workplace organizations, and there is a recurring phenomenon that I need to address.

Often, there is a person within the company who sets much, much higher expectations for themselves, and consequently for their colleagues as well, than the average. This individual tends to sacrifice their family, health, and personal life, working even on weekends, extending into the night to meet deadlines, and is never satisfied with the results. Moreover, they harbor a sense of resentment because others are not willing to make as much sacrifice on the altar of work. What bothers them even more is that no one truly appreciates their sacrifices - they grew up believing that extreme work and outstanding results are essential prerequisites for parental approval.

Therefore, they cannot comprehend that the more they work, the less their colleagues will love them. Frustration grows within them, they become increasingly tired and bitter, and they begin to look down on their colleagues from a perceived moral high ground.

The following short allegory is directed at them:

Imagine there is a wine tasting club where members gather every week in cultured surroundings to familiarize themselves with the finest wines of a region. The purpose of the entire organization is not only drinking, but also community building and serving a higher cause, hence they purchase only sustainably sourced wines, and the club itself supports a climate program.

In the spirit of moderation, one of the basic rules is that they taste a maximum of 8 different wines on each occasion. However, there is a member who arrives already drunk every time and consumes significantly more than others. While everyone else engages in cheerful conversations, they become increasingly intoxicated and frustrated, drifting to the periphery and muttering passive-aggressive remarks under their breath, increasingly disparaging others. At one point, they explode, shouting at everyone why they don't drink as much as they do?!

Dear reader! What would you do with this club member?

And in contrast, how do we handle workaholic, antisocial colleagues in the workplace?